Buzzkill

Ways to make a girl lose interest (via thought catalog):

1. Make her wait hours for a response. She’s not going to expect you to respond within seconds when you’re busy at work or out with your friends. But if you make a habit out of replying to her texts hours — or worse, days — after she messages you, then she’s going to decide you aren’t worth the effort. If you can’t do something as simple as send a text back within a reasonable amount of time, then you’re not going to meet the rest of her expectations. You’re not going to make a great boyfriend.

2. Repeat the same questions every single day. She’s going to get bored if you say the same exact thing every time you text her. Try to come up with some new conversation topics. Try to hold her interest. Otherwise, she’s not going to bother responding because she’ll be able to predict what you’re going to say anyway.

3. Kill conversations. If you have trouble holding a conversation with her over text, she’s going to assume the same would happen in real life. She’s going to assume you don’t work well together. She’s going to assume it’s a sign she should move on.

4. Only communicate with her over text. Even if the sparks are flying, she’s going to lose interest if you only text and never actually make plans to see each other in person. A relationship over text isn’t enough. She wants the real deal. She wants to see you in person. She wants a chance to really connect.

5. If you can stay up all night, you had better read those messages. Come on now, we can see that you stayed up until 2am but your last response to us was at 10. Either you are waiting until we go to sleep to talk to someone else or you woke up in the middle of the night to send a message. Either way, read those messages. Time stamps are damning. Integrity is everything.

Sometimes we think we want things to turn out a certain way. We will hope and pray for something specific. We might take action towards certain goals. We might try to control situations that are beyond our control. But sometimes, the most healing and enlightening thing to do is to allow the universe to send us what we need rather than what we think it is we want.

 

angel with the scabbed wings

there are blank spots in my memory even though I was never drunk
I am delicate in places I am not used to
the smiles that I traced with my finger are covered in glitter and tortilla cheese dust
fourteen hours of music and laughter and
conversations that never had a conclusion
I am blessed for the joy I have in my life
and for the felicity, you have added to it

happy 3rd-day of valentines ♡

tell him how you feel because you deserve the chance to move forward — or move on. You deserve to know whether it is time to take that next step with him or whether it is time for you to heal your heart and search for someone new.

Tell him how you feel because you have been dying to get this off of your chest. You have been itching to get the words out of your mouth (“it is weird, I do not generally like anyone but“) Even though you have been terrified of his reaction, all you really want is to see that reaction, to see whether you are on the same page (and do not run away if he is pining for you too, girl, jesus christmas, do not be draft. He is a good guy and you know it. He is not going to hurt you.), You are tired of questioning. You just want to know.

Tell him how you feel because the timing is never going to be right. You are always going to come up with a new excuse about why you are not ready. You are always going to tell yourself “tomorrow is a better day”. But you do not want to hide behind procrastination forever. You do not want to trick yourself into thinking there is a right and a wrong way to do this because as long as you speak from the heart, you are on a good path.

Tell him how you feel because it is better to risk rejection than to risk regret. You do not want to wonder what could have happened if you made another choice.

Tell him how you feel because it is better than watching him closely and searching for signs that he feels the same… or whether he is only entertaining you until he finds someone who gets him more.