Taking has not been something I have previously been able to do with any sense of comfort.
If I noticed that something was going badly with someone, I would give more. I would shower them with whatever I had – gifts, my attention, praise… whatever was available.
I thought that was what you did.
I did not understand that the correct thing to do was to step back and go within myself and realise my worth and know that I deserved to be treated properly. I did not need to bribe anyone to be with me.
Knowing who you are and what you want means everything. Having the confidence to hang back and let others decide if they want to put some work into you lets you know if they know how much they value you.
You should not be putting in 100% into a relationship.
When these situations fall apart, getting cross at the other person for not appreciating you is not fair – you just showed them how little you care about yourself.
You do not have to do anything to be worthy of love. It is the quality of the person that you are.