Wed. May 18th, 2022

Graysexual, also known as grey asexual, includes people who may:

  • experience a low level of attraction,
  • rarely experience attraction,
  • experience attraction only in certain conditions,
  • and/or are unsure whether or not they experience attraction.

Some people regard greysexuality as a midpoint on the asexual spectrum and stems from the idea that sexuality is not binary and there is a “grey area” many people fall into.

Demisexual is a term used to describe those who do not experience sexual attraction to others unless they form a strong emotional bond with someone first. Demisexual people may still experience romantic attraction, but until a deep connection is formed, there is no sexual attraction involved. They may have little to no interest in sex and may only experience sexual attraction rarely, but that is not the case with all demisexuals. Demisexuality is included on the asexual spectrum, but demisexual people can be gay, straight, bisexual, or any other orientation in addition to being demisexual.

I fall somewhere between the two of these.* More towards the first the older I get. My ability to bond is becoming less likely, it seems. Attraction levels are not high either. Not having aesthetics to draw from makes this dance prickly.

And sex is not much fun either.

The average man watches 110 minutes of porn a week. The need for novelty behaviour increases the chances that being with someone, in reality, is not going to be as satisfying as what they see in fantasy. And they get so accustomed to pleasing themselves that another person’s touch is not enough to get them off. They need the hardcore visuals plus their own hand – it is what they have trained their bodies to do, day after day. So your soft skin, tender touches and wet kisses might get him going they are going to take him ages to get him to completion.

For me, this is boring. I was done ten minutes into the exchange. I have sensitive spots, I am easy. So to go through hours of this just because you jerk off every day is obnoxious.

When you consider that one out of five internet searches is for porn, can you be surprised though?

28,258 users are watching pornography every second.

$3,075.64 is spent on porn every second on the Internet.

88% of scenes in porn films contain acts of physical aggression, and 49% of scenes contain verbal aggression.

79% of porn performers have used marijuana, and 50% have used ecstasy.

The younger the guy, the more likely they are to watch the most online sexual activity.

Mostly, I think it is a waste of time. But these are generally the same people using their free time playing video games as well. It is one addiction to another. Shoot some bad guys then your load. Whatever. We all need to find ways to survive on this swirling rock.

But the way we come together (see what I did there?) in reality is being affected because men have forgotten how to give heads or write love letters. They get their rocks off via the internet and get angry at rl women because we do not like them the way they think we should.

Yeah if you had to go down on someone for an hour each time you saw them and they did not return the favour you would be pretty spicy too, Chad.

(It is always someone named Chad, right?)

That will be on my list of requirements for my next companion interview (listen to me sounding like Dr Who):

“Yes, and do you like cats, cheese, randomness & aliens? Excellent. If we were to engage in a physical relationship, do you perform The Oral Sex?”

Cunnilingus is now a deal-breaker. I might not care much about these things but if I am to consider spending my life with someone, I need to know if they are opposed to the act in itself. I shall not deprive myself of basic human rights! Your vulva, clitoris & vagina deserve love and attention too!

Maybe just a, “muah! You are beautiful and I love you!” And then the day moves on.

Yeah… this covid fever is no joke 😂


*You are attracted to those of the same sex as yourself, but not quite in the way an allosexual does. The further downwards you are located, the less you experience sexual attraction and could be even repulsed by the idea. A purely romantic relationship is far more appealing than a sexual one.