Wed. May 18th, 2022

I detest that I am making this post. It comes up in conversation too often for me to ignore it so I apologise to those that love and adore me and people in their lives that are not wrapped up in the race-based science and the eugenics of Franz & so many that insist that race is real*.

Some years ago, a close friend of mine said a friend of hers was being abused by her romantic partner. She was a foreigner, did I know of any resources to help her sort out her rights? She left her job, her apartment and her whole life behind to be here.

Also, she was several weeks pregnant.

I got to work on gathering the information I could.

About a month later, there was another woman in a similar situation.

They started to pour in after this.

I made a page on my website with a list of links for them to access. After a while, I created a chatroom to address individual issues.

We started out with 35 people. When I left, there was more than 600.

More than six hundred women had been imported by Norwegian men and discarded in inhumane, sometimes violent ways.

The one thing they all had in common was that they were women of colour. Most had been replaced with white women. They were place markers until these men got what they truly wanted – a woman of their own race. They were told they were loved, adored & promised a future – many were married and had children. Some were just there to keep a tidy house and a warm bed – glorified domestic servants.

Often to be discarded once they got pregnant.

I held their hand when they needed a friend at the hospital when they chose to terminate unwanted pregnancies. I was a perfect stranger, but we were in solidarity in our cause – being treated like second-class citizens by Norwegian men.

We put a list up of the men’s names that abused them. I thought it was important that each one of them was held accountable for the damage that was done. These women’s lives were destroyed yet the men in a lot of cases were unscathed.

I spent so many nights crying listening to their stories. My heart broke for each one of them (at the same time trying to tell myself that the same thing was not happening to me, I was not being manipulated and taken for a ride. No, of course not. This Norwegian man was different. He cared about me. He would not lie to me. He would never treat me like rubbish! He was just distant, that is all. It was his job that had him treating me like this. It will be better when he is home. He would never abandon me if I was pregnant! He is not a monster! He said he wanted me, he said he had feelings for me, he said… and then he disappeared for weeks and months and though each woman in this chat told me he was playing me I did not listen. He was not like their racist, callous, cold men! He was not! I defended him tooth & nail despite what I was being shown. I remember reading those chats thinking how thankful I was that I did not have their lives. How naïve I feel now).

Children were left fatherless. Women were beaten, raped, left homeless and sent back to countries that they had nothing to go home to. They were used and this horrible practice goes on day in and day out.

It is not until you are put in someone else’s shoes do you wonder how to proceed.

Let us not mince our terminologies – in a lot of cases (but certainly not all of them), these are hate crimes.

Hate crime, noun, is a crime, typically one involving violence, that is motivated by prejudice on the basis of race, religion, sexual orientation, or other grounds.

If these women had been white, they would not have been treated like this.

When I sit in silence, in the still do I know for sure that this is my situation?
Is it?

If I move backwards in this and look at all of the evidence, what do I see? Am I being treated like a human with respect and dignity or am I being treated like a person that is beneath someone else?

Any crime can be prosecuted as a hate crime if the offender has either:

  • demonstrated hostility based on race, religion, disability, sexual orientation or transgender identity

Or

  • been motivated by hostility based on race, religion, disability, sexual orientation or transgender identity

There is no legal definition of hostility so we use the everyday understanding of the word which includes ill-will, spite, contempt, prejudice, unfriendliness, antagonism, resentment and dislike.

That, I am afraid, might answer my question.

I feel so gross now like I need to scrub off all of my skin.

 

 

*okay, kids, you know how I feel about this but if you are new here, start with this.