When you are in love, you have this desire to make that person happy. When you are attached, you expect them to make you happy. I hear it all the time, “well, they just do not make me happy anymore”. Often attachment is love minus trust. Trusting someone enough to allow them to see you for who you are, weaknesses & all is scary. Mutual love allows you to be your true self. Love is never controlling. In actuality, love transcends control.