Tue. May 17th, 2022

8: Key Insight: Your past is flexible. Your view and “memory” of your past is always based on your perspective of the present. You can change the meaning of the past. When you make your past into a positive narrative, then you’re free from it. 

Challenge:

How has your view of your past changed over time?

I understand that I can “rewrite” my past to suit what I need from it. I am not a victim.

-What negative episodes or memories from your past could be reframed?

I am doing what I can to reframe my relationship with my mother.

DAY 9:

Key Insight: You get to choose the meaning of every experience that happens in your life. Either you view an experience as, “This happened for me,” or “This happened to me.” If you view it as “for me,” then you can become better. If you view it as “to me,” then you’ll become bitter. 
Challenge:
Reframe every experience in your life as, “This happened for me.”

This is not as easy as it sounds. Imagine having a truck come by and splash you with cold water from a puddle and say, “Oh, this happened for me!” To what? Go home and change your clothes? Did someone else in the office wear the same outfit? Did you dress like a skank that day? Maybe you would miss a mass shooting by a few minutes. I do not know about this as a mantra.

-Moving forward, whenever you face hardship, immediately frame it as, “This is happening for me.”

I can see this working for a cynic, but I am mostly optimistic so…

DAY 10:

Key Insight: You can imagine and speak with your future self to get the clarity and confidence you need to move forward. You can also consult your imaginary future self to heal your former self. 

Challenge:

Take the time to have an imaginary meeting with your future self.
-What would you ask them?
-How would you feel in their presence?


Future Melinda: “Hey.”
Me: “Uh… hi?”
Future Melinda (from here on out will be called Melinda X): “How are things?”
Me: “Are you… me?”
Melinda X: “No, you are me.”
Me: “How is that different?”
Melinda X: “It just is.”
Me: “How?”
Melinda X: *shrugs*
Me: “Is Trump going to be reelected?”
Melinda X: “Ugh, girl, you know I cannot tell you what is going to happen in the future.”
Me: “What is the point of talking to my future self if I cannot know what happens in the future?”
Melinda X: “Ask about your future, girl.”
Me: “Right. Will I ever get laid again?”
Melinda X: “Reply hazy, try again.”
Me: “You really are me!”
Melinda X: “No, you are me.”
Me: “Same thing.”
Melinda X: “Not even close.”
Me: “Ugh, we are even wearing the same pants.”
Melinda X: “That is because you are a copy cat.”
Me: “No, I had them first.”
Melinda X: *glares*
Me: *mwhahahahahahahahahaha*

 

DAY 11:

Key Insight: In order to truly become your desired future self, you’ll need to remove contradictions and addictions. As soon as you remove your Achilles’ Heel, your view of your future self will expand dramatically.
Challenge:

What is your Achilles’ Heel?

You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you will join us
And the world will be as one

-What would your future self be like if you removed that Achilles’ Heel forever?

 

Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion, too

-Are you ready to cross your point of no return on this matter?

 

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man

 

DAY 12:

Key Insight: Your identity is the story you tell about your past, present, and future. It’s time to go public with the refreshed and reframed version of your past. It’s also time to be extremely honest and transparent about your desired future self. 
Challenge:

-In the next 24 hours, tell 3 people about your future self.

I am telling all of you that I am Melinda X.