Emotional connections to holidays are often about holidays of the past, whether good or bad, correct?
But what about holidays of now?
You are not a child anymore. There is nothing cute about the commercialism of any major holiday. Unless you swear off shopping and only sit in a room with your loved ones and eat toast (alternately, buying from local stores), you are feeding the rich and contributing to the demise of this planet.
As an adult, I see through the illusions of these made-for-over-shopping holidays. They make you feel bad for yourself when you do not have the cookie cutter family or a significant other. If you do not receive any gifts or you do not have anyone to give gifts to – you are a loser. Or if you have the people to love and no money to buy things for, you need to put yourself into debt to show them how much you love them.
Rinse, lather, repeat.
How does this say HAPPY HOLIDAYS?
When will people say enough?
I have been asking my friends that enjoy the holidays (and there are a few) what they like about it. Every one of them say it stems from happy childhood memories. My confusion is how they can still be living in the past and the present at the same time?
I thought we were not supposed to do that?
Or am I not understanding the sentiment?
I remember Christmas being nice because we got presents so I was sure Santa was real but then it was bad because we had to cook all day for my uncles to come over to eat. They all had money and we were poor and they never gave us any money to help out. They just ate and left us to do all the dishes and they harassed me and my brother once they were drunk.
So these are my memories from childhood about Christmas. Am I supposed to carry them into my present and dislike the holidays because of them?
No, I dislike the holidays because the charity that the holiday is built on is ignored completely for the mass capitalism. I have a delightful time with my family every year. I do not go ga ga for the “holiday spirit” is all.
I donate what I can and then I try to give more. That makes me feel hopeful and glad. No gift that I give to any family member or friend does that. I know that they do not need anything like homeless people do. Or people without clean drinking water or those that live in domestic violence shelters.
We should give all year, even if it is just a bit, but this time of year we should give a bit more because that is the whole goddamn idea. Christmas – giving like he would have. And whether you are a believer or not, you get the point.
(I fell asleep while posting this, it was 2am and I had been out previously. Please excuse any grammatical errors, my heart was in the right place even though my head was all over!)