By denying racism, we are only bolstering the old patriarchal systems of the male white slave masters. It is important to acknowledge that race and gender were instrumental in creating and maintaining the support system of slavery that dehumanised Black bodies for centuries and glossed over their torture and pain. This mindset that slavery promoted … Read moreTwenty8
I have been using EMDR, breath work (in combination with cold showers), meditation + yoga for trauma. Damn. Besides a rant I had today (which was warranted!), I have kept my mood reasonably stable, my emotions have been even and hey, I have human experiences when pin-pricked but with all that gets chucked at me … Read morethe hanged man
This story is not new. You pay someone for a service and they do not follow through in some way. What makes this story unfortunate is the business person at the centre – mindset guru, Dylan James. He makes his living peddling coaching at $350 an hour. He will listen to your issues and tell … Read morelet’s talk about Dylan James.
Be love. Be kind. Know your worth. Remain forever confident to be recognised. You have nothing to prove. Be yourself. Let them bloom, fail, wander, and learn. Ignore them. Detach and be unbothered. Do not react if it does not feel good to you. You do not owe anyone a damn thing. You are a … Read morewe are indeed creators
When you can wish someone well that has hurt you, I would say that you have done well for yourself. I bet you can sleep well at night too. But when you think that someone is out to get you when in reality that has not done anything to you, perhaps you may want to … Read moreWhen you are the rain on the parade
Life is so amazingly beautiful and complex but the depth of the wounds we carry can be a kaleidoscope into our souls or a doorway into the abyss that we cannot find the exit sign to. I see people that have abused me as lovely because I see myself as such. That is my mirror … Read morewe are not the same
In group therapy, we were talking about the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard trial. I have mostly ignored it because, in my opinion, this has nothing to do with anyone besides the two of them. As everyone rattled on about it I realised one interesting fact: if Amber had not stood up for herself, none of this … Read moreJack Sparrow vs. The Time Pirate
When you showed up and started speaking your lines, I guess we both thought you would be there forever. Except for one or two of you (we knew it was always meant to be a walkon). No matter how many good, indifferent, horrid, tea, coffee, wine, or sexy times we might have experienced together, not … Read moreto all of the guest stars in my story